It’s been over 2 months since my last post. I keep thinking about writing something, then getting distracted or never fully forming the necessary thoughts. A few weeks ago I was blaming it on the craziness of finals and graduation, and now I get to blame the post-grad slump.
The other day I was having tea with Joy (of joynessthebrave) and she asked me if I have lately been feeling like I’m waiting for my brain to reawaken itself. This launched us into relieved expressions of “oh, you too!?”. Neither of us have posted anything since April (well, now she has. She’s faster than me). Both of us graduated early. Both of us spent the majority of our lives up to this point working to get to this point, and now are at a very unfamiliar place of waiting and wondering and trying to figure out life all over again.
… Actually, now it’s been another month since I wrote those first two paragraphs.
So this leads me to a question that I have often pondered: when is the appropriate time for action, for reaction, and for waiting?
The past few years I’ve spent largely on reacting to the situational fact that I was in school, working towards a goal, dependent on my family, etc. Last month I spent waiting. Waiting on a phone call, an idea, a direction, a job. And then I got tired of that and sprung into action. Today was my first day at both my new job (server at Denver’s best brunch spot) and internship (with a local fashion designer), both of which I landed by reaching out to every last person I could think of that might have some ability to help me.
Growing up in the church, I heard things all the time like “I’m just waiting on God to tell me what to do” or “yeah, I don’t really want to but that’s what God is telling me to do”. It annoyed me then and it annoys me now. Those utterances are a dime a dozen and I know from experience that God doesn’t really work that way most of the time. And the real problem comes when those phrases are followed by colorful accounts of what they really want to do and are passionate about and talented at. You know what I think? When there is a fire in your heart it’s there for a reason. Don’t blame God for your fear of the unknown, of failure.
When your heart longs for something, when you feel dissatisfied, or in a slump, or lethargic, act! Now is the time. When doors are opening to you and other people are making decisions that affect you, react. Don’t waste it. Don’t be afraid of what might happen, when the possibilities are unknown and endless and great. Each one of us has some kind of support for whatever we do.
And possibly the hardest of all… waiting. I feel as though I’ve spent far too much of my life waiting. But sometimes it is entirely necessary. Sometimes you need to turn off your phone, make a cup of tea and watch Gilmore Girls all night until you feel settled enough to move forward. Sometimes your heart needs a rest (and I think it lets you know) before moving on to the next grand adventure.
Knowing what to do in the waiting time is important. But it’s also important to realize when you are actually waiting. I am the type that’s had a ten year plan since I was eight years old (granted, it changed a lot for the first while). When you plan ahead so much… have dreams and goals of what your life is moving towards, it’s easy to get lost in the waiting and forget about the things that are happening now. I could easily fall into the mindset that I am still waiting–waiting for my own business to start, for a family to start, everything. But the action is already happening.